Judge a women based on how she behaves, not on how she looks.

This accomplishes at least two important things. First, it sets you apart from all the other men chasing her. A “hot” girl has legions of men doing her bidding. She’ll notice a guy who doesn’t grant her special treatment. She’ll respect you for your boundaries, EVEN IF SHE DISMISSES YOU AS NOT USEFUL TO HER. Of course, you can bend to her whims, but you’ll be in a lower status category immediately. Such an unequal pairing is not sustainable.

Secondly, it’s how a woman behaves (her character) that determines if you’ll be happy with her, not how she looks (which fade, anyhow).

Of course, you want all women you date to meet your physical standards so you can have enjoyable sexual relations with them, but in a partnership it’s the behavior of the girl that matters. To our parent’s generation this would seem like obvious advice, but for some reason I feel people 30 and under (generally speaking) are infatuated by appearance. In my experience, a hot girl loses 80% of her appeal after I fuck her, unless she’s got strong character. Keep those girls for casual sex and develop a partnership and trust with an attractive woman of substance.

Depending on your appetite and the rotation you employ, you may be seeing quite a number of girls per week. This is the benefit of learning how to pick up women. Carefree, fun, light and full of variety – that’s abundance at its best.

However, even the most seasoned player needs to deal with frustration because women can behave in a particularly irresponsible manner when they know things are casual. Of course, it depends on the girl, but many women feel entitled to break plans at the last minute, to be annoyingly vague or to be old-fashioned teases. I discuss strategies for mitigating this in Attraction Formula, but nothing is 100%. You’ll find yourself up against a wall sometimes, chasing smoke. Even the best of us do it. However, over time, you’ll learn to ferret out time-wasters and other false-starts.

The worst thing you can do when you’re frustrated – and I still do this, too frequently – is to “act out.” That means sending a mean or insulting text, or making a strongly sexual comment (my strategy) in a last-ditch effort to get her attention. This rarely works. The best strategy if you want to sexually enjoy the most women is to remain cool-headed and have a nonchalant attitude. This is easier said than done, because if you’re excited to sleep with a woman, it’s extremely frustrating when things fall apart.

A good part of the solution is to have a deep inventory so that you always have ten girls in play on a given night. You’ll definitely get laid that way – maybe not by the girl you really want – but at least you won’t be going ape-shit-batty! Also, knowing how to meet new girls greatly reduces the stress that a single girl can cause…

It seems that frustration is the price a man pays for the excitement of single life. Many men, it’s my belief, ultimately settle into a workable relationship because they haven’t mastered the single life. In my opinion, that’s a bit backward; it makes more sense to “retire” once you’ve understood how to play the game most effectively (each man has a different potential). In the early stages of the hustle, the war-path is littered with false-starts, missed opportunities and “should haves…” As you hone your skills and really learn how to meet women in large numbers, how to effectively pipeline your dating schedule and how to manage a working inventory, you’ll encounter frustration less frequently. I cover all these issues and strategies in Attraction Formula. Though it may decrease, frustration with the fickle female will never entirely dissolve. As a man’s libido wanes I think this can happen naturally, but that’s cold comfort to a virile man with fire in his loins.

So, keep your head up high and eventually you’ll master the art of picking up women. I came before so you should get up the learning curve faster than I did, because I’ve done a lot of the work for you. Also, expect that the initial phase can be frustrating, but once you’re had a taste of female abundance you’ll not only pursue the course more vigorously, but handle the occasional frustration more gracefully.

Since they all want a relationship (for the most part, unless they’re under 25 or over 35) you’ll rarely have to work hard to convince a girl to try exclusivity. Men want sex, women commitment, that’s the common knowledge. Here’s the problem, and it’s a nice one to have: there are a lot of very hot girls in the world, but if you want to have a family in the traditional sense, you gotta choose one girl to be the mother of your kids. How do you do it?

It’s definitely not an easy choice – unless you get slammed by love. If you’re really playing the field and you’re good with women, chances are you won’t succumb to this fleeting intoxication; all players are emotionally removed, to some extent. You can evaluate the offerings and make a cool, calculated selection. What’s important to you?

In my experience, having dated a lot of chicks and slept with hundreds, I can give you some good advice: beware situations motivated by sex! For you guys out there who’ve done your fair share of damage, you know that after you’ve tapped a very sexy girl you consider her in a very different light. Even though I wish it weren’t the case, the fact remains that sex cannot keep two people together for very long, especially if the guy has chops!

Believe me, I love a hot piece as much as the next guy, but it never lasts… I can think of the hot red-head Scorpio from 2003 who let me do all kinds of inhumane things to her body… She was a looker, too. We had this remarkable chemistry and I loved breaking off a piece… But we had nothing in common: she was a conservative-looking Connecticut girl who liked reading romance novels, I was an edgy hustler who didn’t want to skid into mid-life just yet. And then, much more recently, there was Vanessa from Sao Paulo – a Brazilian who knew how to use parts of her body that most girls don’t even know they have… Pleasant girl, and we were raw when the lights went down, but she always wanted to “talk” and I couldn’t ever pretend to be interested in what she was saying… How many times can a player return to the well if there’s nothing to discuss, nothing comfortably similar or familiar.

And don’t get me started on chasing a misbehaving piece of 20 year-old club meat…

One reason I advocate guy’s learning the ropes first is that a man has to know the cycle of lust before he can make smart choices… He has to know what if feels like to catch a real hottie, bed her, and then lose interest. If he doesn’t know firsthand the fleeting nature of attraction he’s prone to make a serious mistake – thinking that the burning in his loins is reason enough to say, “I do.”

The remedy is to select for a woman who has character – something that really matters in the long-term. Once the boobs sag, the thighs spread and pajamas become de rigueur you’re going to want a woman who is patient, reliable, honest, sweet, affectionate and loyal. If you can find it in a hot package when she’s young, you’re in luck!

I’ll tell you a little story…

A young woman who means a lot to me displayed incredible character on our second “date”… I met her with my buddy R. while walking the streets of NYC. I had a reputation at the time and so I was using a pseudonym when I hustled pretty young things on the street… That day, I met one fine lady and gave her my working name, “Christian.” We got together a few weeks later and had a great time on our first hang-out. I accidently broke her necklace while getting down and dirty… She kept the kitty locked up, but I liked her company. So…. date #2 happened a few days later. We were making out in my bed when she challenged me on something and in order to clear the air I told her my name was actually “Paul.” Understandably, she withdrew and got suspicious. Her mood nosedived and she became scared and angry. It was late and she was broke so I offered to loan her $20 bucks to take a cab home. She left distraught, after agreeing it was a loan.

A couple of days later she indicated she wanted to meet to repay the $20. We did and it was the beginning of a beautiful romance…

The lesson here is that as a 21-year-old girl rattled by her emotions, she nevertheless honored her word to me and repaid the money.

In my experience, few girls can do that. Most women make decisions emotionally and will quickly void any commitments made earlier if they feel angry, hurt or cheated. Men will do this too, but less so. (That’s why the male mind runs the world.)

The second show of character came some months later. This same young woman was in bed with me at my house. We were dating. My buddy R. stopped by to say “hi” and make small talk. He’s a very socially sophisticated guy and we’ve shared many women in the past. He knows which buttons to push to elicit certain responses and get what he wants.

He miscalculated that this young girl was just a hussy in bed with me; that I didn’t have any stake in her or her feelings.

In his miscalculation, he said some obnoxious comments relating to how he’d like to sleep with her, etc. I was caught a bit off guard, and let the situation play out… This particular young lady deflected his comments graciously and instead of getting incensed and retaliating, she mused over his words and responded maturely and with equanimity. The result? R. looked childish and insecure, isolated in the corner of the room with the echoes of his inappropriate words surrounding him…

And this girl was 21!

These are demonstrations of character that no amount of ass-shaking, tit-jiggling, or lip-smacking will rival. Make sure you pick a solid winner when you decide to mate, because your daughters are going to need the genes and upbringing to survive this relentless world.

Not least because there are guys like me in it!

Paul

I’m currently involved with a woman, but the fact that I can easily approach and close many of the women on the street makes something as simple as getting a cup of coffee an exercise in temptation… Over the years I’ve approached countless thousands of women and in the process I’ve developed such strong confidence and verbal skills that I can disarm, engage and attract many of the most beautiful women walking around the streets of New York.

But with this skill comes a responsibility, and it’s hard to pass by beautiful women without striking up a conversation or at least making eye contact. I can turn it off at times, but the charm and seduction skills are often just below the surface, creating temptation everywhere I go.

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Paul Janka

Keep in mind, Attraction Formula was written at the peak of my hustler days, over a year ago. Since then, I’ve gotten busy with a lot of business-related activities, and my attention has broadened beyond just bedding women. Also, I have some really great women in my life whom I see regularly, so that’s slowed the velocity of new women into my life. Nevertheless, as you read in these articles, I still do fine and I am about to embark on a 3-month world tour with the express purpose of chasing and bedding women in some of the world’s swankiest settings…

So, this young lady, J., just bought my ebook. She’s a very smart girl that works as a software engineer at a company that is the boon/bane of my existence: Google. It’s a boon because it drives our business through paid-search; it’s the bane of my existence because almost every girl I meet uses it as a research tool in her quest to identify and snatch the “ideal” guy. I get disqualified early on in the process because of….well, because of my Google-ability…

So, J. (who, by the way starts every sentence with, “So,…” a common trait among engineers who like to start thinking from first principles) was telling me the other night in bed about Ladder Theory.

From a man’s point of view, women are always on a single ladder: they can always be considered sexually and most men spend time and attention on women they find sexually desirable.

Women, on the other hand, view men either on a one ladder or another: the “friend” track of the “lover” track. And, according to J., ladder jumping is prohibited and almost always impossible… In fact, when a patient man who has been biding his time on the “friend” ladder tries to make the jump, the outcome is invariably AWKWARDNESS.

I subscribe to this model, but personally I have burned the “friend” ladder – there’s never a chance a women will consider me a friend, first and only. I’m too aggressive, and I won’t hang around an attractive women for long if she wants me to sit politely in her “friend” category.

I rather have a women become disgusted with me and throw me out then for her to feel “safe” and “cuddly” with me, when I have a strong libidinal desire for more…