Pick Up Is a Matter of Seconds and Inches
After you’ve met a hundred random girls (random, but they all share a commonality: attractiveness) you’ll realize this whole game hinges on time and space, what I call SECONDS AND INCHES…
I was with a guy on the subway on Monday and we were talking about his business. The train pulled into my stop and I exited, saying good-bye. Waiting on the platform, about to enter the train was a very cute redhead with a ponytail. She had on an IPOD and was standing, waiting for her opening. On Manhattan subway trains, there’s only about 7 seconds between the time the doors open until they close. I contemplated turning around and approaching her, convincing her to miss this train and chat for a minute or two (she may have resisted and I wasn’t about to go uptown just to chat to a girl). So, I let it go.
This type of situation accounts for 75% of pick-ups: situations in which I have a 5-7 second window to make contact before she’s gone, meets her friends, gets on the phone, or has past me on the street (requiring me to chase her down). It’s also about proximity: sometimes the girl is getting off the train as I’m getting on and there’s only a foot between us, but she moves too fast. Or she passes on a downward escalator; I’m going up.
It’s really a matter of seconds and inches, no joke.
Pick-up is very much like battlefield combat. If you hope to be effective you have to be quick without being sloppy, you have to be precise, you have to see your target quickly and be decisive and deliberate. On top of all that, you have to have the mental acuity and flexibility to open the girl and keep the conversation “bouncy”. If that weren’t hard enough, you have to have a backbone to deal with offensive, rude and the most common type, the socially inept girl. This game is not about pride, it’s about results.
The results speak for themselves, but few men are really good at this. It’s easier to settle for the one girl you’re seeing, or to wait for an introduction, or to rely on bar/nightclub scene where lights are dim, the music loud (to cover poor verbal game) and the senses dulled by alcohol.
If you’re reading this, you’ve decided to work on this part of your game and I commend you. Don’t give up, even though it may get frustrating at times. These skills – decisiveness, emotional strength, detachment, and verbal proficiency – will serve you well beyond pick-up in the areas of business, finance, friendship, performance and deep relationships.
Good luck to you.
What I think is key here, and in almost every other endeavor, is to have a strong bias toward action.
This is all the more reason why having a script (canned material) is essential.
Hey paul I am bringing a woman to NYC in dec b4 xmas an would like to know some hot hip places to gp-she is 37 n sophisticated, likes to dance etc. looking for something different ,someone suggested Elaines?
any thoughts
thx
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Its interesting because Napoleon says exactly the same things about battlefield combat; being decisive above all else. I Just came back from a bar/club night and if I could master the street game I would never set foot in those places again. The word of the day is ‘decisive.’
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knowledge is power
“If that weren’t hard enough, you have to have a backbone to deal with offensive, rude and the most common type, the socially inept girl. This game is not about pride, it’s about results.”
It takes a lot of balls to do this.I remember hitting on a stupid bitch one year ago and she looked at me like I tried to set her on fire or something.
I completely stopped approaching girls and I don’t even have to mention that I’m still the same: horrible with women.
Just do it.If she acts retarded just walk away,like Paul always says.
It’s her loss.
“The most common type, the socially inept girl” I like that quote. It seems that very few girls have the confidence and social ability to come and find out if there might be something beyond their isolated untrusting worlds unfortunately. But you’re right, pick-up has done wonders for my social life.
Another thing…Paul, was watching you on the Youtube videos…you’ve got amazing body language, how long did it take you to master that and how did you do it?
“This game is not about pride, it’s about results.” Another great truism spoken by Paul. A valuable lesson for (anyone). This game definitely humbles you in a very positive and profound way. How many people remain isolated in their ego’s missing out on meeting not just beautiful women, but great people in general because they fear looking bad by being rejected? The majority! Sadly, we lose sight of the fact that only WE can reject ourselves….
“Seconds and inches” is another wonderful concept. I’ve found breaking most women out of their shell comes down to subtleties. Subtleties, subtleties, subtleties! She’s looking for any reason she can to shut down and protect herself from strangers. Little NO’s, so she can get on with her safe little world. To be successful at this takes a lot of skill mostly in very subtle ways. The subtle NO’s she’s trying to find (mostly instinctively) add up very quickly. Usually, it’s one small one that dismisses you from her life for good. The YES’S add up quickly in the same regard. Fashion, confidence, wit, social intelligence etc. Getting good at this definitely doesn’t happen over night.
Wow, this is purty neat! I found you Paul by watching you on Dr. Phil’s show on Youtube. They may say you are a bad boy, but man you have some really neat ideas. I dub you the “Pick-up Alchemist”! :J
I’ve had women come up to me and say whatever and I always choke. I’m typically a shy person but once someone gets to know me they warm up. It’s just that initial opening that I faulter. I have very little game if any. I was a lot quicker with comebacks when I was young but since then being married twice and turning off the flirting switch I’ve lost the instinct and touch. It’s tough now since I’m not typically a night club hopper. If anything it would be nice if I could just get more comfortable meeting/talking and going out on dates. Sure having sexual trists would be nice it’s just not my main focus right now. I’d like to have more friends with benefits because I do tend to have better times with women that have character.
Ok, so what if you don’t drink alcohol anymore and are now living a life being clean & sober? How can I approach these situations of being able to pick up women…?