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Comment on Pick Up Is a Matter of Seconds and Inches by tommy

tommy — Fri, 17 May 2013 01:05:36 +0000

Ok, so what if you don’t drink alcohol anymore and are now living a life being clean & sober? How can I approach these situations of being able to pick up women…?

Comment on Looking Past The Physical by body language

body language — Mon, 06 May 2013 10:55:28 +0000

Hey! This post could not be written any better! Reading this post reminds me of my
old room mate! He always kept chatting about this. I will forward
this article to him. Fairly certain he will have a good read.
Many thanks for sharing!

Comment on Pick Up Is a Matter of Seconds and Inches by The Pick-Up Artist’s Manifesto | Kenny PUA: “Get Laid By Being Social”

Thu, 02 May 2013 17:28:37 +0000

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Comment on Looking Past The Physical by Vincent Vinturi @ Real Natural Seduction

Vincent Vinturi @ Real Natural Seduction — Tue, 16 Apr 2013 15:22:11 +0000

You’ve described one undeniable part of the male/female dynamic, Paul. Which is how sex can only keep you interested for so long if you don’t mesh with a woman on other levels. But if we’re being honest, companionship can only keep you interested for so long as well, before the player Mr. Hyde comes out…

If you really want to have kids and a long-term partner, I think the only sensible solution is to make it clear that you will NOT commit to exclusivity. Many women will, of course, Balk with a capital B. But you’d be surprised at how many women accede if you’re up front and unshakeable on this term. If she agrees, it goes without saying that you should keep your on-the-side hijinks to yourself and never rub it in her face that you’re loving other women.

This is important. The reason I say it’s the ONLY sensible solution is because a man who loves a variety of women will INVARIABLY sink into ennui in the tepid pool of exclusivity. Then he’ll either lose his desire for his main squeeze or falter and get his kicks on the hush.

Man is polyamorous. To deny or go against the natural order is always asking for trouble. Existence is more stubborn than a guy’s limited willpower. And the irony is that if you value your freedom above an arbitrary exclusivity and see other women, you’ll both be more attractive to your primary lover, who will respect you for your inflexibility in regards to your terms. AND…YOU will be more attracted to HER because you’ll be experiencing other women, which will make her seem more exciting in contrast.

Comment on Rejection Comes With The Territory by johnny berba

johnny berba — Tue, 16 Apr 2013 10:00:41 +0000

As paul mentioned rejection comes with playing the game, women will try to find holes in a guy at pretty much all parts of the seduction…. from getting her number to the date then the bedroom etc. You learn to not be effected by there reactions and that in it’s self turns a woman on as most guys show they are emotionally effected when a woman says no.

Rejection = success

Comment on A Key to Understanding Women by Vincent Vinturi

Vincent Vinturi — Sun, 07 Apr 2013 20:33:04 +0000

Couldn’t have said it better, Paul.

And frankly, a hot girl with a character you don’t find attractive isn’t even interesting for “just sex”. Because as a man of options and standards, why have “just sex” when you can give your time to the people in your life who really inspire you and turn you on, mind – body – and spirit.

Best Wishes
Vincent Vinturi

Comment on Overcoming Frustration by Introverted Playboy

Introverted Playboy — Fri, 22 Mar 2013 16:39:17 +0000

For me, a big revelation on this was realizing it’s all about having goals in a general sense, but not concentrating those goals on a specific girl.

It’s the difference between “I want to have sex” and “I want to have sex with Julie.” The first goal can (in the proper framework) contribute to healthy, robust development of your game and masculine attractiveness. The second goal will lead to more and more neediness and desperation, gradually lowering your overall attractiveness.

Comment on A Key to Understanding Women by Introverted Playboy

Introverted Playboy — Fri, 22 Mar 2013 14:47:08 +0000

This is a great point. Most men fall in the trap of judging a girl by her looks alone. If she’s hot, he’s down to hang out and do more or less whatever he wants. I admit I’ve fallen into this trap more than a few times in my life. Developing real standards is part of becoming a truly attractive and compelling man. Without it, you are just another penis chasing her. They are a dime a dozen.

Comment on Rejection Comes With The Territory by The Demise Of A Washed-up Disgruntled PUA Known As El Topo Loco [Steve Mayeda] | Kenny PUA: “Get Laid By Being Social”

Sun, 10 Mar 2013 23:54:52 +0000

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Comment on A Key to Understanding Women by Vrouwen Versieren Forum

Vrouwen Versieren Forum — Mon, 18 Feb 2013 14:48:39 +0000

Hi Paul,

Great to the point advice. And it’s so Paul Janka! Raw and just so true!

Cheers,

Pim