Comments on: Rejection Comes With The Territory http://www.pauljanka.com/2009/06/17/crashing-and-burning/ Confessions of a New York Playboy Wed, 07 Jul 2010 09:28:23 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: Haris http://www.pauljanka.com/2009/06/17/crashing-and-burning/comment-page-1/#comment-85 Haris Wed, 02 Jun 2010 20:11:58 +0000 http://www.pauljanka.com/?p=45#comment-85 Just walk away midsentense as Paul does, when the interaction isnt going anywhere but down the drain. Thats what ive done alot. Its friggin fun to :) Just walk away midsentense as Paul does, when the interaction isnt going anywhere but down the drain. Thats what ive done alot. Its friggin fun to :)

]]> By: FAZ http://www.pauljanka.com/2009/06/17/crashing-and-burning/comment-page-1/#comment-81 FAZ Wed, 17 Mar 2010 02:54:19 +0000 http://www.pauljanka.com/?p=45#comment-81 Paul Janka, you are the master daygame guy here, but may I offer advice? "I thew out a causal question: 'Hey, you know where the subway is?' She walked right past the bait. All I got for my efforts was a half head-turn and a, 'I’m sorry.'" Never open with a yes or no question. You should have said, "Hey, where is the subway?" A question phrased this way requires more thought investment for her to answer. She has to say, "um I don't know" at the very least. If you do it like that, It's harder for her to say no and just walk away. Paul Janka, you are the master daygame guy here, but may I offer advice?

“I thew out a causal question: ‘Hey, you know where the subway is?’
She walked right past the bait. All I got for my efforts was a half head-turn and a, ‘I’m sorry.’”

Never open with a yes or no question. You should have said, “Hey, where is the subway?” A question phrased this way requires more thought investment for her to answer. She has to say, “um I don’t know” at the very least. If you do it like that, It’s harder for her to say no and just walk away.

]]> By: FAZ http://www.pauljanka.com/2009/06/17/crashing-and-burning/comment-page-1/#comment-80 FAZ Wed, 17 Mar 2010 02:49:23 +0000 http://www.pauljanka.com/?p=45#comment-80 "A girl who wants to have sex right away isn’t a slut, she’s just horny; a slut is a women who is sloppy in terms of her thoughts, emotions, goals and attitude. " - So true!!! "I think they can feel a player and they get guarded. I have, many a time, been shut down by girls who are easy for everyone else. Isn’t that funny!" - So so soooo true. Great post. You hit the nail on the head with sluts. “A girl who wants to have sex right away isn’t a slut, she’s just horny; a slut is a women who is sloppy in terms of her thoughts, emotions, goals and attitude. ” – So true!!!

“I think they can feel a player and they get guarded. I have, many a time, been shut down by girls who are easy for everyone else. Isn’t that funny!” – So so soooo true.

Great post. You hit the nail on the head with sluts.

]]> By: Jean Paul http://www.pauljanka.com/2009/06/17/crashing-and-burning/comment-page-1/#comment-76 Jean Paul Tue, 22 Dec 2009 18:30:34 +0000 http://www.pauljanka.com/?p=45#comment-76 I slightly disagree with Andrew over here. When you are more authentic you may actually have more rejections. 1) Many people don't now how to handle someone who is honest. A woman recently told me "Many girls don't want someone who can see through their insecurity". Why do you think there are so many attractive women with pussy men? 2) When you are more authentic and approach more you will sometimes know the interaction is not going anywhere. So technically, it is not that you're not getting rejected, you just cut your losses. 3) I have realized most guys are not successful simply because they don't really go after women. And those who do don't refine their technique, in terms of getting the kind of girl they truly want and feeling more relaxed and confident. 4) Bottom line: you approach more, you get rejected more but then you get laid more! Rejection has nothing to do with how attractive you are. I slightly disagree with Andrew over here.
When you are more authentic you may actually have more rejections.
1) Many people don’t now how to handle someone who is honest. A woman recently told me “Many girls don’t want someone who can see through their insecurity”.

Why do you think there are so many attractive women with pussy men?

2) When you are more authentic and approach more you will sometimes know the interaction is not going anywhere. So technically, it is not that you’re not getting rejected, you just cut your losses.

3) I have realized most guys are not successful simply because they don’t really go after women. And those who do don’t refine their technique, in terms of getting the kind of girl they truly want and feeling more relaxed and confident.

4) Bottom line: you approach more, you get rejected more but then you get laid more!

Rejection has nothing to do with how attractive you are.

]]> By: Andrew http://www.pauljanka.com/2009/06/17/crashing-and-burning/comment-page-1/#comment-45 Andrew Fri, 30 Oct 2009 17:01:21 +0000 http://www.pauljanka.com/?p=45#comment-45 Mystery and other PUA style guys deal with the most rejection because they're so superficial and unauthentic. (Tho from his OUA show on VH1 it seems like fool proof - B.S. TV at it's best). The more authentic and balanced you are, the smaller the scale of rejection you'll deal with. But, everyone has to deal with rejection on some level. Our egos assure ourselves that "She would be stupid to not want to be with me." Then, when we get rejected we might feel offended. But when you know you're an authentic character man you have to accept rejection. If your not getting rejected your not trying. Mystery and other PUA style guys deal with the most rejection because they’re so superficial and unauthentic. (Tho from his OUA show on VH1 it seems like fool proof – B.S. TV at it’s best). The more authentic and balanced you are, the smaller the scale of rejection you’ll deal with. But, everyone has to deal with rejection on some level. Our egos assure ourselves that “She would be stupid to not want to be with me.” Then, when we get rejected we might feel offended. But when you know you’re an authentic character man you have to accept rejection. If your not getting rejected your not trying.

]]> By: Tommy http://www.pauljanka.com/2009/06/17/crashing-and-burning/comment-page-1/#comment-35 Tommy Sat, 24 Oct 2009 13:18:11 +0000 http://www.pauljanka.com/?p=45#comment-35 Alot of women, and good friends that are hot ones all say "you just radiate the player look", which sucks, while i actually am a player im pissed that women can just look at me and assume it,, eventually when i bang them which usually does happen they all say the same thing, "your such a player", how does one avoid being labled as this even though im doing nothing but hanging out with my guy friends and having some drinks.... Alot of women, and good friends that are hot ones all say “you just radiate the player look”, which sucks, while i actually am a player im pissed that women can just look at me and assume it,, eventually when i bang them which usually does happen they all say the same thing, “your such a player”, how does one avoid being labled as this even though im doing nothing but hanging out with my guy friends and having some drinks….

]]> By: PUA Gathering http://www.pauljanka.com/2009/06/17/crashing-and-burning/comment-page-1/#comment-29 PUA Gathering Tue, 06 Oct 2009 05:21:38 +0000 http://www.pauljanka.com/?p=45#comment-29 Great post. Very inspirational. Great post. Very inspirational.

]]> By: Dave http://www.pauljanka.com/2009/06/17/crashing-and-burning/comment-page-1/#comment-26 Dave Fri, 28 Aug 2009 02:22:01 +0000 http://www.pauljanka.com/?p=45#comment-26 Your system is awesome, Paul...I'm collecting numbers regularly now and had 2 dates this week. Both only drank 1 drink though! WTF?? Your system is awesome, Paul…I’m collecting numbers regularly now and had 2 dates this week. Both only drank 1 drink though! WTF??

]]> By: Andi http://www.pauljanka.com/2009/06/17/crashing-and-burning/comment-page-1/#comment-24 Andi Tue, 21 Jul 2009 22:45:02 +0000 http://www.pauljanka.com/?p=45#comment-24 "You gotta break a few eggs in order to make the omlette" I got this one from David D., although he probably has it from somewhere else... There is always the other side to the story, don't forget that. Maybe she had a bad day, doesn't have to be you. I know that I treat myself quite badly, I always beat myself down for anything... Just be yourself, do your best and see what comes out, if you don't make it, accept it; at least know you did your best, right :)? And don't let it bring you down... Nice stories Paul... “You gotta break a few eggs in order to make the omlette”
I got this one from David D., although he probably has it from somewhere else…

There is always the other side to the story, don’t forget that. Maybe she had a bad day, doesn’t have to be you. I know that I treat myself quite badly, I always beat myself down for anything… Just be yourself, do your best and see what comes out, if you don’t make it, accept it; at least know you did your best, right :) ?

And don’t let it bring you down…
Nice stories Paul…

]]> By: T http://www.pauljanka.com/2009/06/17/crashing-and-burning/comment-page-1/#comment-17 T Wed, 01 Jul 2009 10:21:13 +0000 http://www.pauljanka.com/?p=45#comment-17 I guess you never know who's unreceptive - or would string you along - until you approach. Then again, the opposite is also true - there's nothing more pleasantly surprising than seeing an apparently closed-off woman brighten up to your approach. It's all about the numbers. I guess you never know who’s unreceptive – or would string you along – until you approach. Then again, the opposite is also true – there’s nothing more pleasantly surprising than seeing an apparently closed-off woman brighten up to your approach. It’s all about the numbers.

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